You’re ready but he’s still not. Taking intimacy to the next level is important to you. It’s something that you’re familiar with and you’re concerned about. Why men pull away in relationships! The familiar place that you’re in right now you’ve been there before just 1 year ago. So you’ve been involved with this great guy now for 3 years and to you things seem great until you mention that you want to go to the next level with the relationship.
The answer to the solution lay in how well you know men. Not your man per say but men in general. Pretty much the large majority of all men have several key things going on that every woman needs to know and understand about men that all women can use to their full advantage that’ll answer puzzling questions about their mens reluctance to commit as well as how to get them to gravitate in their direction without all the tension and disappointment.
The first thing women need to understand about men and why they pull away in relationships is that men and women think differently about everything, period. Men come to different conclusions in different ways. Since men are different than women anatomically they see and process information in a completely different manner.
As far as relationships and commitments are concerned men govern how they feel about women in many cases by their gut. This isn’t to say that they don’t feel things in their heart it just means that men process in formation and make decisons concerning love based on their gut feelings. Commitment phoebic men are cautious naturally. But men who aren’t afraid of commitment typically goes by how they feel inside their gut. If there is something amiss or doesn’t FEEL quite right in a man’s gut then that would be a time when a man pulls away.
The solution is to in a discreet way either find out what’s making him pull back or juts start to try and understand some of the things that he may have voiced his concern over about the relationship that may be causing him to resist getting closer to you. Many times a lot of these things have to do with you perhaps voicing your opinion on why he needs time alone or a little space every now and then. It’s natural for all men to want it and he’ll resent it or take it personally if you don’t see this.
On the same note he has to repect a woman for wanting to do things that women need to do from time to time. When you’re with your man try to spend time with him on a level that’s just between the both of you. When I say this I mean don’t connect with him on a level that you would connect with a girlfriend on. The connection with him needs to be one of total trust and complete devotion. While the exact reason for why he has pulled away may or may not be known the important thing is to change the feeling and or mental blocks that may exist now.
His thing may be fishing, golfing, jogging, whatever it may be if you don’t support him with it then it says to him that that’s something that you’ve given him an ultimatum about and he will grow to feel in his gut that although as natural as it is to a man to want it that you have made it hard for him to do it, guess what, he’s going to pull back. Congrats, you’ve just created a wedge! One that’ll exist until either you change it or he creates a mechanism for coping and that’s not a good thing.
Now, how many of these wedges a woman creates depends largely on how well she understands what a mans wants and needs are. At this point trying to get a man to commit is highly unlikely. And so it all begins, the long drawn out scenario with the proverbial elephant in the room thing starts. You know the one where everything seems OK but in all actuality it’s far from it. The relationship is breaking down!
This is only one of the more common reasons for why men pull away in relationships. There are others.
The man is slowly but surely distancing himself and the woman pretends that she doesn’t understand what’s going on, and perhaps she doesn’t but because you don’t talk all lines of communications are closed. Needless to say that there will come a point in time when this can only get worse all because of, for whatever the reason, either not knowing how or knowing but not doing it, just not meeting the needs and wants of your man.